Relationships are a mirror of your self worth

Venus is in retrograde and she is teaching you and I about our self worth through the mirror of our relationships. And you may be finding that you are feeling frustrated with some of your old, superficial and shallow relationships. However, those relationships also may be showing you how much you have been neglecting yourself and your needs. When you neglect yourself, you deprive yourself of what you need: attention, support, encouragement, and love. It is natural for you then to look toward others to provide it for you. The problem is that others cannot do it for you. They cannot fill the void you create by depriving yourself of self-care. Today, begin to recognize that what you are seeking and finding in your relationships is truly a reflection of what you are seeking from yourself. Today, treat yourself as if you are someone you deeply love-without apologies. The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for all the other relationships you have in your life.The good thing is that you are in charge of that now. You have the power and you get to choose how you treat yourself. As you begin to love and honor yourself, the relationships you previously had may just melt away because you are learning your own worth and unfortunately they cannot never understand nor value it that is why they came into your life. . Loving yourself will create more reciprocal and satisfying relationships. Loving yourself will create miracles in your life.

Just for today, I treat myself as if I am someone I deeply love and tell myself frequently that I love you. I am my own best friend. Other friends may come and go but I am always here for and with myself. I support myself in feeling good. I attract only loving relationships into my life for they are a reflection of who and what I am. I am a blessed child of the Universe. I am safe and everything is working out for my highest good. And so it is.

Suffering....

We all struggle and suffer however some of us have actually become attached or even addicted to that struggling and suffering-no matter what is going on in our lives we seem to create struggle and suffer. Today, is the day that you recognize and become aware of that no matter what you are going through-suffering is always optional and that the only permanent solution to your struggles and suffering is to change your mind, which creates or perpetuates the struggles, your suffering. While your problems might not be of your own making, the endless suffering that comes as a result of them is and actually comes down to the way you use your mind. It may not be your fault, but it is your responsibility to work on the way you think if you want to be free; if you want to stop suffering. Your mind and attitude are ultimately the things that can keep you stuck or on the flip side, end your struggles. Today set your intentions to use them wisely, and you can overcome any problem, no matter how serious it seems. Having a supportive mind makes it much easier for you to see clearly, and to be happy and content, even in a life where challenges will always crop up. Today, recognize that you always have a choice-you always have a choice to not struggle and suffer! Choose wisely today.

Just for today, I willingly release any need for struggle or suffering. I deserve all that is good in life. I recognize that peace begins within me. The more peaceful I am inside the more peace I have to share with others. The inner creates the outer always. I now dwell on positive thoughts and everything is always working out for my highest good. And so it is.

Inner wisdom

Even when our world is at a relative standstill, you can use this time to process and re-evaluate the goals and dreams that you had prior to the pandemic. With many of our planets in retrograde right now, you are being given the chance to review and re-evaluate everything in your life. Today, make some time just for yourself to be still and quiet. If you have not used this forced standstill to begin a meditative process then today would be a good day to do so. Whatever you believed that you previously wanted in your life is certainly being revisited now. And the only way to find direction and answers is to look inward and to listen to find all the answers to all the questions you have been seeking. Your ego, however, wants you to continue to suffer and struggle and it will prevent you from hearing your inner voice, the inner guidance that will guide you on the next steps of your journey. Your ego wants you to "think" your way through life. Today, stop thinking, stop talking and begin to listen to the inner guidance that is always available to you. You will be amazed at what you discover.

Just for today, I allow myself to be quiet and still and I am amazed at what I discover, Life is just waiting to share its secrets with me. I trust my inner wisdom. All that I ever need to know is revealed to me. My intuition is always on my side. I trust it to be there at all times. I am safe. I am divinely guided protected and loved. Everything is working out for my highest good. And so it is.

Letting go isn't as easy as it sounds

"There will never be a time when life is simple. There will always be time to practice accepting that. And, every moment is a chance for you to let go and feel peaceful." You know that in theory, however most of us struggle to let go even if it is essential for our personal growth. It is not always easy to apply theory to practice because letting go can easily trigger fear, frustration and anger because when you leave something behind and don’t know what to replace it with; you leave space for the unknown and the unknown is scary. Change is always scary, especially when you don’t know what’s coming next. That’s why you might find yourself clinging to the unwanted because that’s what’s familiar and known to you. Today, it is time for you to find better ways to let go of everything that you know no longer serves any purpose in your life and yet you remain attached to it or them. Today, instead of trying harder to let go, accept fully where you are. Embrace it completely. Say yes to all worry, shame, and guilt. Confirm all the negative thoughts and feelings so that you can release yourself from their grip. Simply, give up the battle. Simply surrender. Then, invite in what you desire in to your life, rather than focusing and dwelling on what you do not want. Today, imagine, visualize, and fantasize what you’d love to have instead to come into your life. “Where focus grows, energy flows.” Today, focus on the wanted, not the unwanted. Focus on what you want for your future not what you do not want and letting go will become so much easier and you will become more peaceful, ready for new people, places, things and experiences to enter your life.

Just for today, I know if I dwell on what I do not want. That is exactly what I will get more of. I now affirm only the good in my life. I focus my attention on loving myself and trusting in the Universe. I am centered and focused and I feel more secure each day. I am safe and I am willing to let go of my need to struggle and suffer. Everything is always working out for my highest good. And so it is.

Venus Retrograde

Venus begins her re-trograde today and all matters of love, money and relationships will be up for re-evaluation. Retrograde planets always offer us the opportunity to see and feel our shadows so we can renew ourselves by reviewing our past. Venus is the Goddess of love, beauty, art, creativity, fashion, and money. It rules over the divine feminine and its energy encourages us to slow down and appreciate the finer things in life. During a Venus Retrograde, if there are old heart wounds or cracks in our relationships with others, with ourselves or money, they can rise to the surface so that they can be forgiven, cleared, and healed. Today, pay close attention to how people are treating you because your relationships are a mirror of your self worth. So if you are not receiving enough for all that you share with the world, whether it is what you get paid or how reciprocal your relationships are, it is time to ask for more. It is time for you to awaken to your own worth and then allow the world to give more, to give you what you are truly worthy of. It is time for you to forgive, allow your heart to heal and to begin to expect and accept more! You are deserving.

Just for today, I am open and receptive to wonderful new loving relationships. I am willing to forgive and let go of all relationships that no longer serve any purpose in my life. I now attract only loving relationships into my life for they are a mirror of who and what I am. I am safe in all my relationships. I give and receive lots of love. I am worthy of love. I am worthy of all that is good in Life and all is truly well in my world. And so it is.

Co-dependency no more

The definition of codependency is sacrificing one’s personal needs to try to meet the needs of others. And, someone who is codependent has an extreme focus outside themselves. Their thoughts and actions revolve around other people, such as spouses, relatives or co-workers and their relationships are unbalanced and unhealthy. A person with codependency often tries to save others from themselves. Any of this behavior sound familiar? Today, is the day that you wake up and begin to change yourself, your relationships and your need to fix everyone and everything around you. And it all begins with the relationship you have with yourself. The cycle of codependency can only be overcome by establishing and nurturing a loving relationship with yourself. Otherwise, you will continually find yourself in unhealthy, codependent relationships. Next recognize that no matter how strong or together you envision yourself, you can’t control or fix others, and it is not your job to do so. And you cannot make anyone's life better-it is not your job to do so. Next, you will need to begin to establish healthy boundaries-to stop saying yes when you mean no. In the end, we are responsible for ourselves and our own happiness. What we create in ourselves we can later give to others. In this world, loving yourself will not only make you stronger, but also the people around you. Today, let the grown up people in your life take care of themselves and you take care of you-you deserve it!

Just for today, I recognize that I cannot learn other people lessons for them. They must do their own work and they will do it when they are ready. I say no when I mean no and yes when I mean yes. I know what I want and I do not have to apologize for it. I am a master at setting boundaries in my life that protect my time, energy, creativity and well being. I am safe and everything is always working out for my highest good. And so it is.

Mothering

Happy Mother's Day! Motherhood is difficult and virtually no one does it perfectly. Maybe your mother was flawless, but it's more likely she made mistakes or worse. However, it is now your turn, as a grown up to begin to change the way you look at your mother, to stop blaming her and to begin to create "another" mother. Begin by changing the word mother from a noun to a verb-"to mother". In doing so, you can begin to identify your mother as anyone who offers you maternal care. You can begin to feel mothered through the acceptance, nourishment and love of others and yourself, replacing the need to get those things from your "birth" mother. Today, begin to recognize that the perfect mother is available to you if you are willing to let go of expectations that will never be filled, and to see what is being offered to you here and now. Though all mothers are limited, the force of motherhood is not. It surrounds us every day, in all sorts of ways, some predictable and ordinary, some startling and extraordinary. Today, allow yourself to embrace it, I guarantee you'll find it waiting to embrace you. And that, to me, is the mother of all comforts.

Just for today, nourishing and mothering myself is a joyful experience and I am worth the time spent on my healing. I am gentle, kind and comforting to my inner child as I uncover and release old negative messages with me. I lovingly protect myself with thoughts of joy and peace. The past is forgiven and forgotten. I am free in this moment. I love myself unconditionally and the Universe supports me in every possible way. All is truly well in my world. And so it is.

Your feelings have something to tell you-listen!

Sometimes the last thing you want to do is feel your feelings because feeling them can hurt. Feelings can make you vulnerable and you may even mistakenly think that they make you weak. Today, however the Universe is encouraging you to stop sweeping your emotions under the rug and feel them, express them and allow yourself to learn from them. Allowing yourself to process your feelings, rather than letting them build up until they drain you or come out in odd places at odd times, will begin to transform your life. Today, recognize that every one of your feelings has a message behind it. Perhaps that message is simply to allow yourself to feel the emotion until it dissipates. Or maybe the feeling is guiding you toward some action. And, processing your feelings gives you access to your inner wisdom. Because you already have every answer you will ever need inside of you; you just need to learn how to access that information. They hold the answers about your relationships, your life direction, how to take care of your health, how to move toward what you want. Translating what your feelings are trying to tell you provides a direct conduit to your own higher wisdom. It may take time and effort to clear out what you were in the habit of stuffing down, but the more you lean into whatever is asking to be seen, the more your life will open and expand. The more you will align with your soul and your soul's purpose. Today allow yourself to feel your feelings and express your emotions, you will find that it can be very liberating.

Just for today, I listen to my feelings and I am gentle with myself. I know that all my feelings are my friends, not just the ones that I like. I am safe when I express my emotions. I can remain serene under all circumstances. I feel my heart open and I know that there is room enough in it for myself. I love and approve of myself exactly as I am and out of this situation only good will come. All is truly well in my world. And so it is.

Patience

Sometimes it feels like life is a constantly unraveling story. The only problem is, we want to jump straight to the end to see what happens. However, being impatient does not speed up the process. It only wastes your time and energy by creating extra anxiety and fear. And when we are impatient, we need to know it is because we do not want to take time to learn the lesson at hand. We want it done now. Or, as I once heard: "Instant gratification is not soon enough." Today, recognize that there is always something to learn, something to know and that knowing is a process that cannot be sped up or hurried because we become impatient. Today, recognize that patience is being at peace with the process of life, knowing and trusting that everything happens in the perfect time/space sequence. If you are not having completion now, then there is something more for you to know. When you choose to be patient, it will become easier to deal with both celebrations and setbacks. Knowing that sometimes only time can resolve a situation can make it easier for you to let go and be present. And it’s always easier to be peaceful when you’re living in the moment. Today, choose to be patient with yourself, with others and to be at peace with the process of life.

Just for today, I recognize that patience is being at peace with the process of Life. I relax and know that everything I need to know will be revealed to me in the perfect time, in the perfect way. I will not be distracted by noise, chatter or setbacks. I will allow patience, commitment, purpose and grace to guide me. I am safe and I trust that everything is always working out for my highest good. And so it is.

SuperMoon in Scorpio-endings-beginnings

We have a Supermoon in Scorpio! Supermoons are closest to Earth, which intensifies their emotional impact and this one is especially supercharged since it is in the sensitive sign of Scorpio. Full Moons are a potent time to release/let go of all that no longer serves you. They can help clarify what is close to your heart since your emotions are brought to light. This Full Moon in Scorpio is guiding you and I to honor the beauty of endings. Just as the forest looks so beautiful with all its autumn colors, there is beauty to be found when things come to an end, even if we fight the ending. At the end, things always make sense. At the end, we are able to look back and see things with a new perspective. At the end, we are able to see how all the puzzle pieces we have been working with fit together. At the end, we feel a sense of calm, of relief that it is all over, it is all done.Endings, however, sometimes can also carry pain and sadness. It can be sad to see something go from our lives, but if we are open to it, we can carry the awareness that with this ending also comes a new beginning. Today, set your intentions to see if you can find the beauty in any endings that have come your way. See if you can locate the comfort and the peace that comes from the knowing that there is nothing more to do be done. Whatever you have been battling; whatever you have been struggling with, it is done, it is done.Today look for the beauty in all that once was, find the relaxation in knowing it is all over now. Cry if you need to, laugh if you need to; light a candle to honor the deaths you have moved through, and always keep in your heart the promise of new beginnings.

Just for today, I give myself permission to let go. I let go of all fear and doubt and Life becomes simple and easy for me. I release all things that no longer serve any purpose in my life-people, places, things, beliefs and habits. I let go of all expectations. I flow freely and lovingly with life. I love myself and I know that only good awaits me at every turn. I am safe and I am willing to let go. Everything is working out for my highest good. And so it is.

Cinco de Mayo-555

Happy Cinco de Mayo! It is also a 555 day and the number 5 in numerology is the number of change, freedom, adventure and risk. However, it also can bring up lots of drama. Certainly people are seeking more freedom right now since we have had our freedoms restricted in the past months.Yet, the shadow side of the number 5 is avoiding responsibility in order to have a sense of freedom. That chucking it all for the sense of freedom however can result in a less than optimal results, can result in drama and trouble. Ultimately, the number 5 can teach you that you can find freedom by committing to a path that is healthy for you; to forge your own unique path by listening to the voice inside of you, rather than doing what others expect of you or what you have done before over and over again. Today, be open to change. Know that the Universe is always giving you signs that change needs to happen. You might be thinking about changing jobs, leaving a relationship, moving to a new location, or having an adventure. Yet, there is that voice in your head that tells you to keep things the way they are. It is time to quiet your ego and to listen to your soul which is urging you to try something new, to take a chance on yourself. Today, tune inward and listen to the murmuring of your soul. Be willing to change because if you don’t choose to make changes consciously, the Universe is going to do it for you! Today be willing to take a chance on yourself, be willing to change.

Just for today, I am willing to change and to grow. When I am ready to make positive changes in my life, I attract everything I need to help me. I know that in order to change my life outside, I must change inside first. The inner creates the outer, always. I have the strength to remain calm in the face of change. I am safe. I am divinely guided, protected and loved. Out of this situation only good will come. And all is truly well in my world. And so it is.

You know YOUR truth. Trust it

We all struggle with trusting ourselves and our intuition- that inner knowing that sometimes whispers and sometimes screams our truth. And, perhaps it is not that we don't know or hear the guidance of our inner wisdom but rather it is that we do not trust that inner voice. We do not trust that our feelings are valid, that our observations are not all in our head. We often doubt ourselves and even worse, we often trust other people's opinions more than our own. Today, it is time to begin to trust your intuition, your inner knowing, to trust that you know what is true for you and then to trust that you have enough courage to take action on what you know. Today, begin to recognize and acknowledge that you in truth can never make a wrong decision because you can always “right” your decision somewhere down the line. Know that if an opportunity is presenting itself to you now, then on some level you are ready for it. Know that if you may make a decision that does not work out as you planned, it is teaching you the lessons that will then point you in the right direction. No decision is final and every wrong turn can be righted. Today, trust in your truth and have faith in yourself and your intuition, no matter what. Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.

Just for today, I trust my inner wisdom and I make decisions with ease. I know that every decision I make is the right one for me. Making decisions is easy for me. I welcome new ideas and I follow through with what I say. I am the manager of my life and affairs. I make decisions with ease and everything works out for my highest good. All that I every need to know is revealed to me. My intuition is always on my side. And so it is.

Stop judging and criticizing yourself and others

Judge others and you will be judged. Accept others and you will be accepted. Most of us go through our days making judgements and criticizing our self and others without even recognizing how much damage we are constantly doing to our self esteem. And, usually our judgment of others is an extension of self-judgment; and that self-judgment is so ingrained, so normal, we don’t even recognize it. However, all that judging and criticizing is keeping you and I stuck in place mired in fear, in the fear of missing out and the fear of not ever being enough. Today, begin to recognize that at the root of all your judgements is your ego. The ego compares the self with others, often putting others down to temporarily boost up the self. Then it starts to compete, trying to prove that it is better. Then, before you know it the criticism comes, which quickly leads to condemnation. Once we’ve reached that state, there’s no peace left in our mind and no love left in our heart—and therefore, no happiness. Today is the day that you stop judging and criticizing and begin to accept, instead. Today, consciously shift your thoughts from judging to accepting, not only others, but also yourself. When you put as much energy into accepting yourself as you do in criticizing and judging yourself, you will find the happiness and peace that you have been seeking.

Just for today, I no longer judge or criticize anyone, including myself. I am free to love who I am. love, approve of and accept myself exactly as I am. My self-esteem is high because I honor who I am. I choose to feel good about myself each day. It is a new habit that I am choosing to cultivate. I am safe, divinely guided and protected. All is truly well in my world. And so it is.