People pleasing no more

Many of us grew up putting others’ needs and wants first. We learned early that doing things for other people and accommodating their wishes and needs gain us attention and approval. It may be only in those moments that we felt good enough and deserving of love. And, inside every people-pleaser is a little child who never felt worthy of love and was afraid of being rejected and abandoned by his or her loved ones. Being good and nice and striving for approval is a way to try to suppress the fear. Many of us take this fear into our adult relationships too. And as adults, people-pleasers tend to overestimate other people’s imagined negative reactions to what they do or say. They work hard to gain and keep love and friendship, but assume those ties are easily broken. Realistically, it’s highly unlikely your loved ones will reject you if you don’t do what they want. They might be disappointed or upset, but ultimately they’ll be able to cope with their expectations not being met. Regardless of their response, you aren’t responsible for their emotions or actions. When you know this, you can feel more secure about saying no to others. And that in turn helps them to respect your boundaries. Today, instead of looking for validation from other people and the outside world, consciously look inward. In order to ease your fear, it’s important to face it, no matter how painful it feels. Understanding your fear will help you to move forward . Today, set your intentions to provide yourself with enough self love that you do not need to get it from every person you meet. You owe it to yourself to put your people-pleasing ways behind you. You owe it to yourself to take care of you first, because that is the only real way you can truly help other people. You owe it to yourself because you are so deserving and because you exist.

Just for today, I do not have to earn love. I am lovable because I exist. I am a master of setting healthy boundaries that save my time, energy, creativity and well being. I do not need to make others feel good. They are responsible for their own happiness and feelings. I reclaim my power now and consciously create the life I desire. I am worthy of all that is good in life. And so it is.

Flexible and flowing

Sometimes, what we think we want or are being called to do changes. Our intuitive feelings can guide us in a particular direction, but then we have to stay open in order to recognize when it’s time to redefine who we are and what we want. We need to remember that it’s okay to change direction if that’s where our intuition is pointing. And, when you let go of the outcomes about how things are “supposed to” be, you allow yourself to create a life filled with purpose and meaning. Not to say it will always seem easy or fun. Today, acknowledge that nothing ever goes the way you plan it to, or think you want it to, and nothing ever looks the way you think it should. However, if you can let go of outcomes, and accept things as they show up, you will gain a sense of freedom. You may also be surprised to see that things work out better than you could have planned. Letting go of old “stuff” makes room for new possibilities and when you hold on tightly, you declare that you are incapable of manifesting something equal or better.

Today, acknowledge that you can enjoy life more when you open up to joy in the journey. Today, laugh at the things that go “wrong.” Make a game out of it, and have fun at practicing just how flexible you can be. Today, surrender to the process, and open up to joy, peace, love, acceptance, and freedom. You don’t need to know exactly where you’re headed to trust things will work out. If you have done everything in your power to get things to go your way, and they still aren’t working out, maybe it’s time to surrender. Allow what is currently showing up to be what it is. As you accept your circumstances, your circumstances begin change and your entire life will change. Today just go with the flow and see where it takes you.

Just for today, I surrender to what is. I let go of what was and I have faith in what will be. I flow easily with new experiences, new challenges and new people that enter my life. I am willing to let go of the way life is supposed to be and flow effortlessly with the way life is. I feel safe in the rhythm and flow of my everchanging life. I trust my intuition and make decisions with ease. Everything is always working out for my highest good. And so it is.

Focus

None of us can avoid problems in our lives. No sooner is one resolved, than another one presents itself. But the solution is never to be found in focusing on the problem. But rather on focusing on the desired outcome. And, nothing will change if you continue to focus on what you do not want. Focusing on illness will never create health. Focusing on unpaid bills or an overdrawn bank account will not create abundance. Focusing your attention on a problem will only serve to magnify it. So today, instead of focusing on what's not working in your life and your struggles that are happening in your life right now, act as if you already have what you want. Imagine or visualize what you truly want your life to look like. What would it feel like to be freed from your current conundrums and be doing what you heart desires. Today, consciously understand that what you choose to focus on becomes and will remain your reality until you choose to focus your attention on something else. Today choose wisely!

Just for today I focus my attention on loving myself and trusting in the Universe. I act as if I already have what I want. It is an excellent way of attracting happiness in my life. I focus on all the good that is in my life right now. I am safe. It is only change and everything is always working out for my highest good. And so it is.

Uranus conjunction

Today Uranus, the planet that fosters uniqueness, breakthrough consciousness, and innovation, connects with the Sun in their once a year meetup. This connection can foster opportunities for awakening and illuminating discoveries. But, Uranus can also sometimes bring wildcard energy, you may find yourself feeling scattered or at the helm of some sudden changes. And that planetary connection can also encourage you to pave your own path. If you have been holding back on doing something because you're afraid of what people will think, do it anyway. If you have been holding back on standing up for yourself, today, take a stand. If you have feeling like you want to rebel and break out of your norms, heed that call and begin to make plans to prepare yourself for the radical change-the radical change that you have been craving. Today, set your intentions to go your own way, do your own thing and for certain, enjoy the journey. Just for today, I recognize that it does not matter what other people say or do. What does matter is how I choose to react and what I choose to believe about myself. I will not be distracted by noise, chatter or setbacks. I will allow patience, commitment, purpose and grace to guide me. I recognize that every thought I think is creating my future and as I change my thoughts the world around me changes. I am safe. I am enough and I am worthy of all that is good in life, and I accept it now. And so it is.

Metamorphosis

You may still feeling the effects of the Scorpio Super moon, which stirred up a bunch of emotions. Perhaps you're feeling moody, having weird dreams or just plain sad. Today, do not try to push yourself to make things happen. Do not ignore how you feel and force change to happen. Today, instead rest your heart and your mind and let the emotions pass through you. You and I are transforming into new beings and that metamorphosis can feel uncomfortable and at times unbearable. Yet the journey is profound. Today, rest and know that no matter how much you having been suffering and struggling, you in truth are becoming a better version of yourself. As it has been said, if there is no struggle, there is no progress.

Just for today, I willingly release the need to struggle and suffer. I deserve all that is good in Life. I am a capable person. I can handle anything that comes my way. I have the strength to remain calm in the face of change. I am safe. It is only change and everything is always working out for my highest good. And so it is

Look within

We live in a time of information overload-constantly being bombarded with information from a myriad of sources. Whether it be constant scrolling through social media or binging on endless streaming videos, we are constantly being distracted from what is really going on in our lives, inside of ourselves. And, we keep coming back to those distractions, ironically looking for connection and external gratification. And, this constant outward search for approval is often the reason why we don’t look for an internal source of approval. It becomes a habit to keep checking on social media, as a way to receive validation of who we are. In some way we are actually asking others to define who we are, and become unable to see the reality for ourselves. If they tell us we are doing the right thing, by liking our posts or by texting us approving words then we must be; otherwise, we are not that sure. The result of this constant checking in with technology is we have no time left to reflect or ponder. If, on occasion, we do look inward, we feel a sense of emptiness and fear. Not knowing what to do with it, we try to fill that emptiness with some external source of gratification. However, that emptiness is important. It is telling us that we are disconnected from who we are. This disconnect is one of the main reasons why we end up in painful life situations. Today, set your intentions to become aware of how you use external sources to gain the peace, safety, security and identity that you have become uncertain of. Today, instead of being distracted and entertained, spend time disconnected so that you can reconnect with yourself. When we are connected inward, our instincts become stronger, and we understand what is right and wrong for us. We can make big decisions easily, and have no regrets later. A strong connection with ourselves is sometimes all we need, and in some cases, all we have, to keep us sane in this insane world.

Just for today, I look within to find my treasures. It is safe for me to look within. I allow myself to be quiet and still, and I am amazed at what I discover, Life is just waiting to share its secrets with me. I know that everything I seek is already within me. I am safe. This is only change and out of this situation only good will come. And so it is.

Full Moon in Scorpio

We have an intense Full Moon in Scorpio tonight. A Full Moon occurs when the Moon is in exact opposition to the Sun. In astrology the Moon represents your inner world and the sun is your outer world. During the light of this Full Moon we are intended to bring those opposing aspects of our being into alignment. And, the energies of this Full Moon are also designed to conjure up your shadow and bring hidden emotions to light. So, during this Full Moon you can expect whatever has been bubbling and brewing in the background to be brought to the light. You are going to come to recognize where you need to let go of control. And, some of us will allow ourselves to be much more vulnerable than we’d expect ourselves to be, and a lot of us will learn to accept that letting go is how we grow up. Also, this Full Moon will draw our attention to all the things that we have been putting off and all the things the Universe would like us to focus on. So, today and tonight, set your intentions to embrace and accept those aspects of yourself that previously frightened or dismayed you. Remember, it's okay not to be perfect. In fact, for you to be loved for who you are, it's necessary to reveal your authentic self. Today it is time to reclaim your sovereignty and let go of your need to please everyone else. It is time to let go of who you were, to people, places and things that may feel familiar but serve no purpose in your life. Today, leave who you were; love who you are and look forward to who you will become.

Just for today, I am willing to let go. I am willing to release the need to be unworthy. I am worthy of the very best in Life and I now lovingly allow myself to accept it. I accept all parts of myself. I recognize that healing means to make whole and accept all parts of myself, not just the ones I like. I release all negative thoughts of the past and all worries of the future. I let go of everything and everyone that no longer serves any purpose in my life. Life supports me in every possible way and everything is always working out for my highest good.

Are your feeling moody?

Today Mars, a fiery planet, moves into the watery sign of Cancer, causing us to feel moody and out of sorts. And the truth is that we all get in bad moods, no matter how positive we try to be and no matter what caused us to feel "bad". Whatever the case may be, you just might be feeling something you don’t want to feel and perhaps, you’re not sure how to change it. So, today, no matter how irritated you are feeling, recognize that in reality you don’t have to act on everything you feel. In fact, you would be better served to stop yourself from reacting in a way that you may regret later. Today, recognize that the best way to change how you feel is to change how you think about what’s bothering you. Instead of dwelling on what went wrong, identify what you learned and what you can do with that knowledge to make your next moments better. Today, instead of dwelling on everything that’s out of your hands, such as other people's behaviors, focus on things you can actually control; and choose to stop nurturing your hurt and irritability; And finally be willing to let it go; be willing to take responsibility and stop blaming other people for how you feel. Today acknowledge that you get to choose whether you cling to pain or let it go. You can’t avoid feelings, but you don’t have to exacerbate them with negative thoughts. Today, remember that every day may not be good, but there’s something good in every day.

Just for today, it does not matter what other people say or do. What does matter is how I choose to react and what I choose to believe about myself. I know that if I dwell on what I do not want, that is exactly what I will get more of. I focus on loving myself and trusting in the Universe. I do not fix my problems. I fix my thinking and my problems fix themselves. I am safe. It is only change and out of this situation only good will come. And so it is.

Safety and security

As we begin our re-entry into our new normal, things can feel frightening and you may find yourself filled with uncertainty, fear and anxiety. And because we are under the energy of Taurus that craves safety and security, you just might be looking for safety and security in all the wrong places. For you see, your need for physical security is actually an outward manifestation of your inner fear of uncertainty. However, when you allow yourself to stop hiding, trying to create and to find safety and security, you can face your fears and anxiety head on. And when you face your fears head on, you will come out lighter and less fearfully attached. Today, if you’re feeling muddled by uncertainty and fear, allow yourself to stop over thinking everything. Instead of over thinking everything, consciously remain present with patience and know that with time everything heals and everything will be revealed to you. Today instead of feeding your fears practice acceptance. Shifting to an acceptance mindset allows you to show-up, wholly, with your attention grounded in the present, you are able to hear your intuition and find the answers that you are looking for. Finally, let go of your need to control everything. Today, loosen your grip on your life and practice letting go and just being with uncertainty. It too shall pass. Today recognize that each time you stay present with fear and uncertainty, you’re letting go of a habitual way of finding security and comfort. Today create a new habit of using your fear to propel you forward instead of keeping you stuck and mire in fear. You are stronger and wiser than you think!

Just for today, I am safe. It is only change. I cross all bridges with joy and ease. The old unfolds into new wonderful experiences. My life gets better all the time. I feel safe in the rhythm and flow of my ever changing life. All is truly well in my world. And so it is.

Earth Day-take loving care of this planet

Happy Earth Day! Although most of the time I write about the other planets that are impacting us, today it is time to focus on the very planet we all inhabit, planet Earth and to remember the gifts that Earth provides to all life. It is a day to set our intentions to protect, conserve, and care for the very planet with live on. And, it is a day is to honor our home planet and all the gifts that it gives to us every day, even if we are distracted by ego and fear. Today, take some time to look outside yourself to see how truly blessed we all are to live on this magnificent planet. Be grateful for all its gifts and commit to making one small change that will help to heal this planet, which we collectively have been destroying for many years. Today, consciously become a part of the solution to heal this Earth and appreciate the beautiful world you live in!

Just for today, I recognize that we are all family and this planet is our home. Every person, place and thing are interconnected by love. I am at home in the Universe. No matter where I am on this planet I am always safe and everything is always working out for my highest good. And so it is.

Self Care

There are many things to be anxious and stressed out about these days. We work too much; we don’t take enough time off; we’re constantly plugged in and “on” yet are more disconnected than ever before; many of us struggle financially; and none of us know what comes next with the pandemic. We truly face many challenges and struggles every day. So how do we help ourselves weather the storms of our lives? How do we handle daily ups and downs without getting swept up by emotions and reactions? The answer which you probably already know is self care! Today, consciously stop, and begin to practice daily self care. Self-care is an active and conscious choice to engage in activities that nourish you and help you to maintain an optimal level of overall health. It basically means making healthy lifestyle choices and implementing stress management strategies. It also means maintaining healthy boundaries, saying no to what does not feel right; playing more; enjoying more time outside; being creative and doing anything that brings you joy. The beautiful thing is that you are in charge and you get to choose. You and only you know what’s most nourishing for you right now, and what you need to be doing to feel healthy and balanced. You get to decide how to nurture and care for yourself best! Today, stop putting off self-care for later. Later will never come. You and I have to make time now for what’s important, and self-care needs to be your priority. You are worth it!

Just for today, nourishing and taking care of myself is a joyful experience. I am worth the time I spend on healing myself. I am a master at setting healthy boundaries that protect my time, energy, creativity and well being. I say no when I mean no and yes when I mean yes. I know that I want and need and do not have to apologize for it. I am in the process of making positive changes in every area of my life. I am safe, divinely guided and protect. And, all is truly well in my world. And so it is.

Value yourself

Taurus season is here! And it is time to re-examine how you value yourself and how that has taught the world how to treat and value you. If you don’t like and love yourself, you don’t value yourself, so you’ll have low standards for how you let people treat you. The simple truth is we don’t protect and take care of what we don’t hold in high regard. So, the way you treat yourself and how you let others treat you shows you how much or little you really value yourself. So, today consciously notice the standards you set. Notice what you tolerate from others. This will tell you whether or not you value yourself if you are unsure. If you want to learn how to treat yourself better, think about how you treat something or someone you value and truly appreciate. Then begin to set healthy standards for how you treat yourself and what behaviors you accept from others. Today, recognize that the relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for all the other relationships you have in your life. The good thing is that you are in charge of that now. You have the power and you get to choose how you treat yourself. Today “yes” to love—say “yes” to self-love, say "yes" to valuing yourself because it will change everything.

Just for today, my self esteem is high because I honor who I am. I love and accept myself exactly as I am. I draw love and acceptance into my life and I allow myself to accept them now. I have the self esteem, confidence and courage to move forward with ease. I am safe and everything is always working out for my highest good. And so it is

Lying

We are entering Taurus season and it will teach you and I how to value ourselves and our needs, more. It can teach you to be authentically you so you can attract new opportunities that are more closely aligned to who you are today. And, it can expose and reveal who you and others truly are. During this Taurus season, you will no longer find it easy to lie to yourself or to the world around you about who you truly are. And although most often we relate lying with words, lying, doesn't always have to been done through words. You can lie with your actions. You can lie with your silence. You can lie with your complicity. You can lie by pretending to be who you are not. In fact, you can lie about who you really are. And, when you choose to deny who you truly are, you are lying. Lying is a choice, one that deeply harms ourselves and often times, those around us. And even though it is a choice, it’s one that is very easy to hide from. In our search for love many of us will do almost anything to attain that goal even if it means denying ourselves the truth. In contrast, sharing ourselves allows us to know love. Love makes us feel safe and wanted. It makes us feel connected and like we belong. And that in truth is all most of us are always seeking. So today, consciously stop lying and begin to share who you truly are with the rest of the world. It may feel vulnerable to be more of yourself but expressing your truth will align you with your purpose. So, today take off the mask and know that lies may make people feel better, but they do not help them to know love.

Just for today, I love myself exactly as I am. I do not wait to be perfect in order to love myself. I forgive myself for all my past perceived mistakes and bad choices. I am always doing the best I can with the knowledge understanding and awareness that I have. I trust my intuition and I am willing to listen and to follow its guidance. I am safe and out of this situation only good will come. And so it is.